How Many TimesJuly 29, 2010 at 12:02 am | Posted in Giggles, Lollipop | 30 Comments
Tags: Challenges, Children, Discipline, Kids, Motherhood, Positive Thinking, Questions, Rules, Siblings
Lately, I’ve caught myself saying so many things I’d rather not be saying.
“Are you listening to me?”
“Did you hear what I said?”
“Why can’t you behave?”
And this one, over and over, like an annoying pop song I can’t get out of my head: “How many times do I have to tell you … ?”
How many times do I have to tell you …
… not to pull the cat’s tail?
… to leave it on your plate if you don’t want to eat it?
… that rocks and leaves need to stay outside?
… to use your quiet voice when the baby is sleeping?
… that it’s too hot to play out there?
… that Daddy will be home when he’s done with work?
… to share that toy or I’m taking it away?
… that hitting is not okay in this house?
… not to throw toys at the dog?
… not to throw toys at each other?
When what I want to say is, How many times do I have to tell you …
… that I love watching your imagination at work?
… that your tea parties are spectacular?
… that seeing you be so gentle with the baby reminds me of all the good in the world?
… that you make me laugh?
… that your sweet voices light up even the darkest spaces of my mind?
… that, yes, you can definitely have another cookie?
… that watching you master a skill today that you couldn’t do yesterday is like magic?
… that I can’t believe how fast you are growing up?
… that you are such good kids?
… that I am so very lucky?
What I really should be asking is, How many times do I have to tell me? And when will I listen?
How do you switch from a negative to a positive mindset when your patience is frayed? What broken rules really get to you? What would you like to tell your children?