Me, Me, Me

September 7, 2010 at 7:10 am | Posted in Bun, Family, Giggles, Lollipop | 19 Comments
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At last! An opportunity to ignore the smashed goldfish under the kitchen table, the sippy cups in the sink, and the children upstairs still whispering secrets to their best animal friends loooooong after they should be asleep. At last! A post all about me. (Thanks to my friend Kate for tagging me for this meme.)

What experience has most shaped you, and why?
Childbirth, times three. Each experience was different, none went exactly as I had hoped, and all made me thankful for modern medicine and skilled doctors. In each labor, I learned something about myself, something that extended far beyond the delivery room. With Lollipop, I learned that surrendering control is sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself. With Giggles, that listening to your inner voice is never wrong. And with Bun, that I am so much stronger — and so much more fragile — than I ever imagined.

If you had a whole day with no commitments, what would you do?
Today I sat on the couch in the semi-darkness and held Bun’s hand while he napped. He couldn’t seem to get himself settled without my touch. So I sat. And read a book (a whole, entire book). With one hand. In the semi-darkness. It was not at all how I had planned out my afternoon, but it was lovely. Except next time, I might read two or five or seven books. With a light on. And two free hands … or one hand and a cup of hot chocolate.

What food or drink could you never give up?
Ooooooh, Dr. Pepper, I can’t quit you.

If you could travel anywhere, where would that be and why?
Paris. There’s just something about that city that makes my soul happy. (It could be the abundance of Nutella crepes.)

Who do you have a crush on?
My husband. (Really! Do you know how lucky I am?) But, okay, okay, also Seeley Booth and Brad Paisley.

If you were leader of your country, what would you do?
Make recycling mandatory. Ban plastic bags. End our dependency on oil.

Give me one easy savory recipe that doesn’t include cheese.
We’re mostly vegetarian. That means if it doesn’t have cheese, we probably don’t eat it. But I do like a good, thick chili. (And chili is savory, right? Can you tell I’m not exactly a gourmande?)

What did you think you were going to be when you grew up?
An astronaut. Then a marine biologist. Then Secretary of State. And then I realized I was claustrophobic, scared of sharks, and apathetic about the idea of law school. Instead, I became a writer so that I could be all of these things, if only in my head.

If you could spend just one day in someone else’s body, who would it be?
My husband’s, just to see what it’s like to be him. I think it would make me a more empathetic partner and friend. And I think I would see that I’m even luckier than I realize. (Second choice: Lollipop, if for no other reason than to experience her keen fashion sense for a day.)

Which woman writer — living or dead — do you most admire and why?
Jane Austen. I love her stuff. I think it’s a testament to her intelligence and tenacity that she wrote what she did in her time. And Colin Firth is an excellent Mr. Darcy, but he doesn’t even compare to the one on the page.

What character trait inspires you the most?
When I was in high school, I was the girl who remembered birthdays. I decorated lockers with balloons and streamers. I brought cake and a card to lunch. But every year on my birthday? No streamers, no cake, no big to-do. Even still, I kept on celebrating my friends. What I learned was how gratifying it is to be kind simply for kindness’s sake. In fact, I  still strive for that. And these days when grown-up friendships are altogether rare, if not impossible, to maintain as a harried mom, I find myself drawn to like-minded people (and bloggers).

What is your favorite kind of music?
Well, I am a Southern girl, and I do like Country. (Don’t judge.)

Which book or books have inspired or touched you the most?
Waaaaaay too many to list. Most recently, A Widow’s Walk by Marion Fontana. But the first two books I remember that changed the way I viewed the world were Alas, Babylon and To Kill a Mockingbird. And when I saw how powerful books could be, a lifelong reader, writer, and library-card holder was born.

What is your favorite family custom?
Decorating the Christmas tree. I just love Christmas. I love dragging out the boxes of ornaments, putting a hook on each one, and remembering its story as I find the perfect branch. As much as I love it, it’s a thousand times more wonderful sharing it with my children, who are starting to have their own stories to tell.

Do you participate in blog memes? Why? And which question from this list intrigues you the most? Answer it in the comments, or write your own post.



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  1. Loved this. Always happy to learn more about my favourite bloggers. Especially when it’s not me answering the tough questions…

  2. This was fun to read. (I have to say I’m a bit sad that no one remembered your birthday. Damn high school kids.)

    I also enjoy decorating the Christmas tree. It’s probably the one thing we do consistently, in the same way, year after year. I love looking at the ornaments and remembering where we got them or who gave them to us. I love the way the lights glow. (A great Christmas album to listen to while decorating is Sufjan Stevens. Have you heard it?)

    • Add another endorsement of Sufjan’s Songs for Christmas. (Along with all else he’s done, actually!)

  3. Love learning more about you! And what a sweet momma you are; I can just picture you sitting next to your little guy, holding his hand and just BEING PRESENT for him. Wonderful image…

    Remembering the story behind each ornament is a tradition that I, too, love. I make sure we get a new ornament at some point during the year, to represent that time in our lives. The boys don’t seem to care as much as my daughter, but I know someday they will remember it fondly, right?

  4. ps. I will totally vote for you for President!

  5. Memes are fun because it opens up a side of you that writers don’t often explore about themselves. So glad I got to see this, and I have to agree on Jane Austen. She is definitely a woman ahead of her time. But country? That’s OK, you still rock in my book. 🙂

  6. What fun! My favorite of your answers is what you wanted to be when you grew up. I also wanted to be an astronaut. And I still get giddy like a child at NASA.

  7. Strangely I very rarely if ever do memes.
    I love Christmas too…
    and Jane Austen although never read any of her books LOL
    After seeing Pride and Prejudice with Kiera Knightley I was hooked… never saw the one with Colin Firth so can’t comment.

    It is soo sweet that you love your husband sooo much Love it

  8. I like memes. It is always nice to learn about the bloggers that I follow. I love what you say about books – there is so much power in the written word.

  9. I love memes, primarily because sometimes I’m too tired/busy/you name it to write my own posts. So I might just take this whole thing depending how my week goes (yeah, I don’t even wait to be tagged). I’m especially intrigued by the character trait question. I’m going to have to think on that one for a while!

    Thanks for sharing. it’s fun to learn more about people!

  10. I don’t mind memes. It is fun to learn more about people that you might not always find out – even when you read their blog!

    I totally share your joy of Christmas. I’ve learned in the past few years to ease my obsession with decorating the tree just right, and revel in the happiness of having the kids join in the fun.

  11. This was fun to read, and your links are great too! (I want to try that chili.) I’m going to try to attack that “which question from this list intrigues you the most?” question when I have more time!

  12. My heart actually leapt when you spoke of holding the hand of your sleeping child. I do that too. And it touches my heart in such a profound way and turns me into absolute mush every time I do.

  13. I always love reading interesting Q&A, and yours earns an “exceeds.” (Still in back-to-school mode, can you tell?) I am so with you – childbirth, sweet baby hand holding, chili, Christmas decorations. I like country, too, and though Americana is more my style, as a Texan you have to appreciate that I love Lyle Lovett.
    My favorite part is your switch-bodies-for-a-day wisdom in choosing your husband.

  14. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this meme. Even in the silliest of posts, your writing shines through.

    Your (failed?) dreams made me laugh. I think that becoming a writer trumps all those anyway. : )

    I must say, I have read most of Jane Austen’s books (or all, I can’t remember) and have a difficult time plunging through them. Her characterization is excellent, but the laborious details and sometimes complex side stories placed her in the middle of my list. Still, I do find her an author way above her time, even if I don’t necessarily appreciate her writing style.

  15. Fun to learn more about you! The locker thing is definitely you. I’m sorry the favor wasn’t returned though. It should have been. 🙂

  16. Ah, I remember this meme 😉 I loved your answers as well as your book recommendations (I too tend to remember everyone’s birthdays). It’s wonderful that you had an “excuse” to focus only on you, and that may be the reason I do rather enjoy memes. As a kid I loved questionnaires – filling them out and making them up for friends. I guess this is an “adult” version of that.

  17. I love learning new things about you. It’s so fun! Thanks for sharing this!

    I’m a Jane Austen junkie too!

  18. My favorite thing about this post was your insight about being kind for kindness’s sake and about celebrating one’s friends. I spent five years of my life researching female friendship in nineteenth-century America and one insight gleaned was that the best friendships are necessarily ones in which the give-and-take balance out or in which things are “even” or “equal.” I sometimes have to remind myself to be generous and kind and now my image of a high school Stacia decorating a locker will help with that. As for memes, thumbs up. Thumbs up as well to Jane Austen, Dr. Pepper, Christmas, and country music. Reba is my all-time favorite performer in any category.

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